Human beings have a greater need for friendship than, say, animals. Unlike lions and tigers and bears (oh my!), God created us to be social beings. It’s in our nature to gather, communicate, support, and fellowship with each other.
As an avid consumer of nature/wildlife documentaries (thanks, Dad), I’m well aware of the tight bonds formed by wolves, hyenas, elephants, dolphins, and every mother with her baby cub/calf/etc. However, human friendship runs deeper.
Think about it, your best friend knows your fears, support you during dark times, and challenge you when no one else has the guts to confront you.
Despite what the world wants us to believe, we are drawn to each other. So when friendships are lost —true friendships — we grieve. Our grief goes beyond just losing a friend; it also marks the loss of secrets shared, trust given, and acceptance enjoyed. The pain runs deep — so deep that some people close themselves off from everyone forever.
Relationships can, indeed, be challenging. And you don’t have to lay your heart bare for everyone.
The Bible tells us to bear with each other and forgive one another…as the Lord forgave you. (Colossians 3:13)
But that isn’t meant as an invitation for your friends to continually betray and disrespect you without recourse. Proverbs 16:28 reminds us that, A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.
If you’re running lock-step with someone who (as my Mom likes to say) is addicted to chaos, then you’re best served by stepping away from that friendship and loving them from a distance.
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24)
You see, your best friend can be Jesus. In all His perfection, you never have to worry about betrayal. You’re guaranteed to have a friend who will listen without judgment. He’ll encourage and support you with genuine affection. He knows your heart and longs for you to know His.
Not time nor distance can ever take Him from you — it’s a forever love that will sustain you through everything.
The Bible, Simplified